01.12.09

Curse or Gift?

Posted in ADHD, External Links, Posts by Renee, Self-Therapy, Spirituality at 8:19 am by bloggingawayadhd

There’s an interesting discussion going on over at Jeff’s ADD Mind blog about whether ADHD is a curse or a gift (be sure to read the comments):

Post 1: The Curse that Keeps on Giving

Post 2: The Gift vs. The Curse

I have a slightly different take on it – the curse IS the gift. Of course, it’s really hard to see it that way sometimes (trust me, I know), but if you take a step back and look at the bigger picture, you can get a feel for what the apostle Paul was saying:

“…we also rejoice in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character; and character, hope.” -Romans 5: 3-4

Of course, it’s really difficult to have hope when you’ve gotten in a needless argument with a loved one for the 1,475th time, but as we learn to at first cope with, then overcome, the things we struggle most with in life, we will see that the things that “cursed” us the most also taught us the most. When I get really down about my ADHD problems, I can sometimes take solace in the idea that in a way, struggle and suffering in life is good for us.

What do you think? What gives you hope in the midst of dealing with the “curse” of ADHD?

09.07.08

Wii Fit!

Posted in ADHD, Exercise, External Links, Posts by Renee, Self-Therapy, Tools at 12:24 am by bloggingawayadhd

I have a new game to distract me from work – but at least this time it’s somewhat beneficial to me! I got the Wii Fit!

I know it’s no replacement for real sports or weight-lifting workouts, but it’s a great way to get me off of my butt when I’m too lazy to work out, or when it’s cold outside.

I like the Wii itself – especially the tennis and golf sports games, so I was eager to get the Wii Fit. I also read in “Delivered from Distraction” by Edward Hallowell and John Ratey that balance board training helped some kids with their ADHD symptoms, so maybe working on the Wii Fit Balance Board will help my concentration, too!

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08.21.08

Music that’s been helping me focus

Posted in ADHD, External Links, Posts by Renee, Self-Therapy, Tools at 1:18 am by bloggingawayadhd

06.26.08

Completed a goal!

Posted in ADHD, Goal Setting, Organization, Posts by Renee, Progress, Self-Therapy at 8:14 pm by bloggingawayadhd

Yay, I finally cleaned out my closet and dresser, like I said I wanted to about a week ago.

I divided my wardrobe into ‘fits’, ’slightly small’, and ‘yeah right’ sizes. I got rid of everything in the ‘yeah right’  pile, because I’m never going to be under 110 lbs again like I was in high school (nor do I want to be), so anything that would be too tight to wear got put in the yard sale box.

I picked my favorite items in the ’slightly small’ pile, and stored them in a small box that can fit under my bed. Those are things I’ll be able to wear if I get in better shape like I’m planning to.

Then, in my ‘fits’ pile, I got rid of anything I really won’t wear. I also put 3 of of my 7 purses and 4 of my 12 pairs of shoes in the yard sale box. Most of my shoes are actually pretty worn and getting old, but if I get any new ones, I’ll be sure to eliminate a pair I have now. I don’t need that many shoes. I got rid of  pair of heels that I really like, but that really hurt my feet, because if I keep them around I’ll wear them, but every time I wear them I regret it. I also got rid of a couple formal dresses that barely fit, and that there’s a slim chance I’ll ever wear. If a formal event comes up, I have 2 dresses I could choose from. I really have no need for the rest, and maybe some girl could use one of my old ones and get joy out of it and that would be much better than having it gather dust in my closet.

So, in total, I think I put at least 1/3 of the total items in my closet and dresser into the yard sale bag, and I put all of my winter sweaters in a storage bin in the basement. Now, I have fewer clothes to rummage through when I’m looking for something to wear, and my drawers all open and close easily!

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06.22.08

My Experiences with Learning as a Child

Posted in ADHD, Posts by Renee, School, Self-Therapy at 2:42 am by bloggingawayadhd

I saw 2 posts on my ‘tag surfer’ today about ADHD kids and school. One was suggesting that ADHD kids would do well in military school, and one was considering special education. That started me thinking about my experiences in school.

My boyfriend always jokes about how I refer to experiences in high school while talking more than I talk about college or my current life – and I think that’s because high school was a great time in my development and I had so much fun and look back on it with good memories. I found college boring.

But let’s backtrack… to elementary school.

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Blogs & News as a Reward

Posted in ADHD, External Links, Goal Setting, Posts by Renee, Self-Therapy, Tools at 12:31 am by bloggingawayadhd

I’m reading the book called “Find Your Focus Zone” by Lucy Jo Palladino right now. It’s a good book, and I’ll post a full review of it when I’m done with it.

It is helping me realize that a lot of the things I do right now to help me keep my focus – like lots of short breaks to check my blogs – are good things that can help keep me on track while working, even though to others it may seem like a diversion.

I know that one of my biggest time wasters in life right now is reading blogs – not that blogs are a waste, but that first thing in the morning, I spend up to an hour just browsing the internet and “getting ready to work”. So, from now on, I’m going to use that desire to stay on top of the latest news as a motivator – I will only get to read my blogs after I accomplish something on my to-do list, and my Remember the Milk to-do list will now be my homepage instead of iGoogle with all of my blog feeds.

Then, each time I accomplish something, I can read a couple the blogs I enjoy for 15 minutes, then I’ll have to get back to work.

I’ll let you know in a few days if this strategy for defeating some of my procrastination helps! If you have little strategies like this that have been successful for you, please post in the comments!

 

06.08.08

Why I failed at Goal #2, Plus new plan

Posted in ADHD, Goal Setting, Omega-3/fish oil, Posts by Renee, Self-Therapy, Supplements at 5:24 am by bloggingawayadhd

Almost exactly a year ago, I made some goals for myself when starting this blog. Of couse, as with most things in my life, I eventually got off track, stopped using my progress chart, and stopped meeting my daily goals. I’m not sure which came first – Did I stop using my progress chart because I wasn’t meeting my goals and got discouraged? Or did I stop meeting my goals because I wasn’t regularly using my progress chart to keep track of everything? I don’t know, and I’m not going to worry about it. I’ll just try again!

So, I thought I’d analyze why I failed at a simple goal: Take Omega-3 supplements every day.

Here are a few possible reasons:

  • I had put my vitamins by my computer so I’d be reminded to take them daily. They were by my computer in the basement, which I didn’t use every day, and now rarely use. One of my supplements (GABA) is still down there somewhere.
  • The rest of the vitamins are in my cabinet in the kitchen – out of sight, out of mind, right? I only remember to take them about 2-3 times per week, if that.
  • I really don’t like swallowing pills, especially large ones like the GNC vitamins.
  • I have amassed several different types of vitamins, and have a hard time keeping track of which ones I took when, so then I just don’t take any for a while. I would like to rotate between: GNC Women’s Ultra Mega Vitamins, CitriCal (Calcium Citrate + Vitamin D), and Centrum (chewable multivitamin for when I don’t feel like swallowing the GNC ones), and also take Omega-3s every day.

So, I figured a good way to make sure I take at least one multivitamin and one Omega-3 supplement a day would be to use a pillbox. I looked on Amazon since I had a gift certificate, and I saw this cool one: http://www.amazon.com/Apex-Pocket-Med-Pack-Tray/dp/B000EGN1A6/ref=pd_bbs_1?ie=UTF8&s=hpc&qid=1212917207&sr=8-1

It’s handy because I can fill up the little pods at the beginning of the week and know whether I took a vitamin yet today, as well as exactly how many vitamins I’ve taken over the week. I can also take one of the little pods with me to go, in case I want to take one when I eat a meal at the office, or if I take a trip somewhere I don’t have to take a little baggie of vitamins that all get all dusty from each other and nasty looking like last time I went on vacation.

Anyway, just thought I’d share my new plan. When the little pill thingy arrives in the mail, I’ll post a picture of it with my vitamins. (Note: the containers would also be handy for those of you on medication.)

05.29.08

“Finding Your Focus”

Posted in ADHD, Books, External Links, Organization, Posts by Renee, Self-Therapy, Tools, Women at 11:21 pm by bloggingawayadhd

I just finished reading Finding Your Focus by Judith Greenbaum and Geraldine Markel. The fact that it took me a month to read does say something about the book – if I’m really excited about a book, I’ll read it in 2 days, so that means this book didn’t excite me that much.

However, I think the non-excitement came from the fact that this book really tells you how you are – the way your mom does – by saying things that are sometimes hard to hear, like “People with ADD can talk constantly… not allowing anyone else to get a word in edgewise.” How many times have I heard that in my life? Though these criticisms are difficult to read sometimes, the book gives some valuable and simple advice.

At first glance, the book is super-simple and almost seems stupid in it’s short-chapter to-the-point writing style – but the genius of the book is in it’s simplicity. It’s easy to skim and get to the areas you personally need help with, it’s easy to refer back to a strategy you read and want to re-visit, and it’s easy to just get to the “meat” of the writing without sifting through a lot of filler. They just tell you “here’s your problem” and “here’s a solution”.

You really do have to read it over time (I plan to refer back to it) because, as the authors encourage, you can’t implement all of the coping strategies at once. You have to make each strategy a habit and improve in one area, making small accomplishments, like always putting your keys in the same place when you walk in the door, before you can move on and tackle your next problem.

This book does not have a lot of “fluff”. Each chapter pretty much follows this format: example of a real-life person that has a problem, defining their problem in ADD terms, what is stopping them from solving their problem, strategies for attacking the problem, and worksheets for making a plan to implement these strategies for you. I really liked that the authors mentioned some very specific problems (most that I have) and a method for solving them. Here are some of the topics that resonated with me:

  • Steps to De-Cluttering and Organizing (looks like I was on the right track with my method of attacking my piles of paper)
  • Overcoming Procrastination (including rewards!)
  • A Routine for Paying Your Bills on Time (I just might take a twice-monthly trip to the coffee shop to pay my bills)
  • Talk Less – Listen Better (Lord knows I need this advice)

I also liked that the book provides strategies that can help people deal with ADD without medication.

So, overall, I’d say this book isn’t super-exciting, but it’s a good book to have around, and to refer to when you are ready to attack a particular problem in your life. If I could summarize my opinion of “Finding Your Focus” in one word, it would be: practical.

 

 

08.29.07

Something New – White Noise

Posted in ADHD, Posts by Renee, Self-Therapy, Tools at 5:29 am by bloggingawayadhd

So I know I probably shouldn’t be trying something new when I haven’t even been able to get back into my old pre-vacation “daily goals” yet, but that’s how I am…. I see something new and I want to try it now! I guess that’s an ADD thing.

OK so my new thing to try is white noise/sounds to block stuff out in order to get more work done.

I used to only be able to study or sleep in college if there was music on. I haven’t been listening to music while working lately because my new music player of choice is on Pandora Radio where I can hear all kinds of new songs. I can’t recommend it enough - I just love Pandora! The problem with it, though, is that the new songs and the Pandora interface of thumbs up/thumbs down keep all of my attention  – which is great when I’m just listening to music, but not great when I’m supposed to be using the music to keep out distractions.

What worked in college was listening to music that I knew and loved and not adding any new songs to my “work playlist”. That way, the music was familiar and soothing and not distracting.

So, what I’m trying now is to have a “work sound” that I use all the time when I’m in work mode so other noises and thoughts are less distracting and my brain can focus on the sound. The one I chose to try first is a mountain river. Kind of an aggressive water noise with some minimal bird noises in the background. I chose this because I used to go camping near a river in a forest as a kid, and my house was also in the woods, so woodland sounds and rivers are relaxing to me. You may prefer ocean sounds, or just plain white noise (which is available at several frequencies and tones on iTunes).

On iTunes, it’s called “The Sound of Streams: A Mountain Stream 3″. I’ll let you know after a few days of getting used to it if it’s helping me focus any better.

Have you ever tried using a white noise machine or something similar? Let us know how it worked out in the comments!

08.09.07

New Goal (Daily Goal #4): Set aside time for my spiritual life

Posted in ADHD, Goal Setting, Posts by Renee, Self-Therapy, Spirituality at 2:56 am by bloggingawayadhd

I consider myself to be a fairly spiritual person (though not as calm and peaceful as I’d like to be) and I have strong Christian beliefs. My desire to be peaceful is one of the driving forces in my quest to manage my ADD.

So, I’ve decided to add another daily goal: to read at least one chapter from the New Testament of the Bible daily, and to meditate/pray every day for at least 5 minutes. To a “non-ADD” person, meditating may come easily, but for me it’s a struggle to clear my mind and sit still at all, so 5 minutes is my initial goal. Hopefully, that time can increase in the near future.

It’s sad to me that I have to write this on a list to remember to do it, since I want to put God first in my life, but my mind wandering all around makes that difficult. I’m hoping that by “forcing” myself to do it for a while, that I’ll get used to it being a daily thing, and the benefits of calming myself regularly and having a better relationship with God will become apparent.

I’ve thought about adding meditation to my daily routine for a while, but it was actually this article about kids with ADD and Tai Chi that helped me finally decide to do it: http://www.massagemag.com/Magazine/2003/issue101/research101.3.php

And here is a related article with additional “Stress-Busters”: http://add.about.com/od/adultadd/a/stress.htm

If you use any meditation or spiritual methods for dealing with your ADD, please comment!

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